Dont Give Up

This is a very sensitive topic and opinion varies according to circumstances and the things that every individual has gone through in their lives. My opinion on the matter of suicide is just an opinion but my opinion also stems from my beliefs that no one should ever take their own life. I can not say that I have ever actually considered suicide but the thought of it leaves anyone very, very heavyhearted. As easy as it is to say that one has the right to take their own life, its sounds kind of harsh. One has to consider that if someone is having thoughts of suicide it must be because they are going through a lot. I could understand why someone one would have those thoughts or plan to follow those actions but, that does not justify them because life gets better. Things always look up in life, one just needs to examine the things outside their circumstances and situation. Rather than looking at what is in front of you and out of your control look around and see everything else in life. Think of it like a really, really nice car and it just so happens to have a big dent in it from an accident. If all you see is the dent in that car your missing out on everything else about it, it still works and it still looks nice from other angles. We can easily become consumed by the current things in our life that it begins to take over. Although I know that a life has extremely more value than a nice car you could look at the metaphor in the same way. Look at the good things, and if there is nothing good around achieve to make it better and let that be your motivation. Strive for a better future in every way possible emotionally, physically, and mentally. Rather than seeing that dent and letting it define EVERYTHING. It might even be more than one dent, no matter how many dents there are there is nothing God ca not pull you out of. He has a plan and purpose for everyone. He breaks you down to build you up and in the end even stronger than you were before with an even sturdier foundation. For those of you who do not believe in that well just know that everything happens for a reason, as cliché as it sounds it so often said because it is so true. Life does get, and always will get better just hold on and see it through. Ask for help if you find that you can not do it alone. There is always someone there who will help as impossible or hard as that may sound to believe. Suicide is never justified as irreversible and low life can get. I could understand where one may be coming from and why they may see that as their only resort but the truth is that it is NOT. Just hold on and see what else life has to offer.

Rollercoasters

Betrayal is like a dark violent rollercoaster. ( For those who are afraid to ride them that is) When you first hear about it your knees go weak, your palms start to sweat, and your adrenaline starts going up. Your heart just drops so fast and so hard. You can not believe what you have just found out and you want to get out of it. But once your on it there is no turning back and no matter what you do or say you can not stop the feeling. The roller coaster is going and it is going super fast and strong. In the same way when you find out about some one you trust betraying you your heart drops with every detail you find out and your whole body just goes weak. You want to stop it but you cant. You find your self trapped you don’t know whether you want to feel mad, upset, scared, or just straight out start balling. In the same way when you are on a roller coaster (again for those of you who are scared of them) you can not decided whether you want to hold on tight or just let go and try to calm down. You almost wish you can go back and never have gone on the ride in the first place. In the same way when you find out that someone has betrayed you, you wish you could go back and change something so that things could be different. You run down a list of possibilities in your mind of “ Well if I would of said this I would not be here right now” or “ If you would of done this instead this would of never happened”. The emotions are so fast and so different from the one before or the next you don’t know what to feel. In the same way with a rollercoaster you can not see what kind loop, drop, or turn is up ahead. All you know is that can not wait till it is over. In the same way you can not wait till you just get to that person and just find out the truth and hear what they have to say about what you just found out. You want to just get to them and talk to them so that your emotions and thoughts are stable because unpredictability is never comforting. You do not know what to expect or how you are going to react. Betrayal is such a horrible thing to feel and a rollercoaster is just a minor comparison to what one person may feel. It may be even worse! I just hate rollercoaster and I absolutely can relate the feeling of betrayal to the feelings I get when I am on a rollercoaster. It takes control and you can not fight it once your in it. No matter what you do you can not do anything to make your self feel better or any more assured that you will be okay all the way through the end. it’s a dark feeling and it can become a very violent rollercoaster if not properly handled.

Love Others Like You Love Yourself

There has been a rapid drift in values, loyalty and morals through out the last few years especially in families and marriages. Marriages no longer hold the commitment that used to keep them together. Now a days they are treated as another simple relationship that can be broken if either individual is not satisfied or if they are not having their needs and desires met. We live in such an individualistic culture that we have come to care more and more about ourselves than of others. We love ourselves rather than loving others and put our needed and desires first above anyone else. This way of thinking and living is what has caused such a brokenness in marriages and commitment. We have our priorities mixed up we think that if the other person is not making us happy then they are not “the one” for us but, in reality if we continue living and thinking like that we are never going to find anyone! This is proven in the Kate Chopin’s story “The Storm” both individuals get wrapped up in the moment and lose sight of reality giving in to self gratification and selfishness. They become so consumed in what their physical momentary needs desire that they do not stop to think about the consequences and do not think about their significant other that they will hurt as a result of their actions. Numerous of the qualities and values needed to keep up a good and successful marriage have also been lost as a result of our selfishness and individualism. We need to be there for our partner and loving one another and taking care of each others needs. Rather than sitting thinking and complaining about was is done for you to make you happy, one should think about what can be done to make their other half happy. It sounds like Calixta was deprived from her husband although unclear and unrevealed in the story we can assume what they may have been. So she went along with the temptations that came her way and found what she wanted else where rather than finding it in her husband and vise versa of Alcee. However this does not justify or make their actions right in any way. Their needs to be communication in the marriage which seems to have been lacking. If they would of each communicated to their partner the sense of neglect they were feeling they would of probably found a solution. However we also do no know what Calixta’s husband may of needed from her and same goes from Alcee and his wife. Modern marriages can be successful and last the way they are meant to be if people take the time that they require. They needed to have time, dedication, communication and love. We need to not expect or set unrealistic expectations from the ones we love and just love unconditionally. With unconditional and selfless love we can achieve happiness and also realize that short is the joy that comes from guilty and selfish pleasure.

Differences

Woolf ‘s made a relevant argument about women having to fight for their rights as individuals. In that time I believe it is was a valid point, due to the fact that women were looked down upon and thought of as being incapable. If you take a look through out history you will see that being a woman was not enjoyable. Men and society would look down on women and see them as incompetent. They had far less opportunities than men in society and were only useful for taking care of the home. I don’t believe that being a woman who stays at home and cares for its needs speaks any less of her abilities. Taking care of the home is a stressful and hard thing to do. It is not only one thing that has to be done it’s a variety of things from cooking, cleaning, fixing, and caring for the family along with their unpredictable needs. Women have come so far now and have so many opportunities now a days that I believe that some women dread being the stay at home mom because they feel they deserve better. I myself would love to be a stay at home mom when I am older and caring for a family. I believe it would be one of the most enjoyable things for a women, yes, it may come along with its downsides but so does every other job. I cant find any better motivation than knowing that your actually there for your family. I believe that there is a great difference in providing for them, and actually being THERE to provide and care for them. I do believe that women are as capable as men but, I see that sometimes we as women get to caught up in our independence and get in over our head and try to do more than we should. We have different roles as women and have to realize that we are not always going to be able to do the things that men do, and vice versa. Men and women are made differently and women lack in some areas that men don’t and same goes for the men they can not do some of the things we women do. I do believe in equality and all that but, I think we have gone a little over board. We have crossed the line so far that women now a days are actually treating men the way that women were treated back in the days. Some women actually see men as lesser than and that is not right. I do believe that with time women have been given more opportunities but, we are also trying to take advantage. Rather than having the husband go out and provide, some families have the father staying home and the mother providing! With the economy I understand in some cases it is temporary and necessary but, outside of those circumstances it is not the best idea. Yes we are equal as men and women but we need to take in to account that we are made different along with different purposes, and rather than competing with one another to see who is “best” we should try to work together to get all around better results.